You might find this hard to believe … based on my incredible charisma and boyish good looks (massive sarcasm) but when I was a young kid I was the special target of bully’s in school. I moved around a lot and was always the new kid, so I was fresh meat, easy prey. And I didn’t do a very good job sticking up for myself. One day I came home in tears and wrote on my binder: “I hate these kids. They make me feel like a such a loser.”
The next day, my Grandad crossed out what I wrote and replaced it with this: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.
I remember that day vividly, it was the day I stopped giving other people permission to make me feel a certain way.
It isn’t easy to remain positive when negativity surrounds you. We can defend ourselves against all kinds of negativity. We participated in the 7 day mental diet, (which I cheated on several times). It was a wonderful reminder that dispite what we tell ourselves … WE are in control. No one can make you feel anything … you are in the drivers seat.
I’ve learned many valuable lessons in the last 20 weeks of this program (and some from my Grandad) … and some on my own. There are things we can do to protect ourselves and make this an easier journey.
Below you will find 5 things I have found to help free me from the grips of negativity.
I have so much to be grateful for. – Most people make there happiness dependent on things going right all the time. The truth is … they don’t. If you don’t stop and smell the roses and take inventory of all the amazing things you have going on, its easy to loose site of them. Happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but of appreciating everything we do have. Stop what your doing right now and find something to be thankful for … (Like this Blog :).
I have the power to make the world a better place. – Help one person every day in some small way. By helping other people with their problems, it has a way of shrinking our problems to a point where they are so insignificant or at the very least more manageable.
Everything I feel is simply the result of my thinking. – It has now been proven that “feelings” follow thoughts. How you feel is a direct result of what you are dwelling on. So listen to that voice inside your head. If its cynical, pessimistic, negative, morose, well ten its no wonder you feel like crap!! Happiness starts with you – not with your mate, not with your job, not with how much money you have, but WITH YOU. We can’t always control our circumstances, but we can ALWAYS control our attitude. Remember, you can’t have a positive life with a negative attitude. When negativity controls your thoughts, it limits your behaviour, actions, and opportunities. If you realized how powerful your thoughts were, you would never dwell on a negative thought again.
Who are you spending time with?. – “If you want to sore with the eagles, don’t be hanging with the turkeys” That one was from may Grandad too … Surround yourself with people who lift you up – those who see the great potential in you, even when you don’t see it in yourself.
Hard work is always worth the effort. – Time lost is time lost. It’s gone forever. Some people tell themselves that they will work twice as hard tomorrow to make up for what they did not do today. People should always do their best. If they work twice as hard tomorrow, then they should have also worked twice as hard today. That would have been their best.” — John Wooden
This months scroll in the Greatest Salesman has been without a doubt, the most eye opening and compelling thing I’ve read. It was like having a serious chat with my Grand Father, that talk you always dreaded. The one where you’ve disappointed him, but he see’s enough potential in you to help you push past your area’s of weakness. I may read this one scroll everyday for the rest of my life. I’ve accomplished some pretty cool things in my life, despite having this affliction.
I have but one life and life is naught but a measurement of time. When I waste one I destroy the other. If I waste today I destroy the last page of my life. Therefore, each hour of this day will I cherish for it can never return. It cannot be banked today to be withdrawn on the morrow, for who can trap the wind? Each minute of this day will I grasp with both hands and fondle with love for its value is beyond price. What dying man can purchase another breath though he willingly give all his gold? What price dare I place on the hours ahead? I will make them priceless!
I will live this day as if it my last.
I will avoid with fury the killers of time. Procrastination I will destroy with action;doubt I will bury under faith; fear I will dismember with confidence. Where there are idle mouths I will listen not; where there are idle hands I will linger not; where there are idle bodies I will visit not. Henceforth I know that to court idleness is to steal food, clothing, and warmth from those I love. I am not a thief. I am a man of love and today is my last chance to prove my love and my greatness. – Greatest Salesman
Loose the expectation that everything in life should be easy. It rarely is. In fact, there are never any shortcuts. Enjoy the challenge of your achievements. See the value in your efforts and be patient with yourself. And realize that patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams. It’s knowing deep down that the work is well worth it in the end.
Thanks Granddad … love ya lots … wish you were still here 🙂