Week 24 – Happiness is worth the effort

Are you doing what you love? …. does your daily routine feel like a prison sentence, or do you bound out of bed in the morning excited to start the day.

Most people, we know,  live lives of quite desperation. never really getting out of neutral.
Some daydream of a different life … maybe someone else’s life. Some don’t know what there lives passion is … they just know this isn’t it.

What would you say (more importantly, what would you DO) if I told you, that you could start living a life of deep passion, doing what you love and loving what you do?
Would you want to know more? Would you take action on it?
Would it be Ok if I shared some thoughts on how to make that happen?

“We must act out passion before we can feel it.” ~Jean-Paul Sartre

Keep in mind that passion is not the product of wishing; it’s the product of doing. That’s what divides the world. There are those who wish and dream and never take their lives out of neutral. Then there are those who figure out what they want, shift into gear and hit the gas.

Deep down, who do you yearn to be?
Flashlights are meant to light up … the very reason for existing is to give light. If you throw it in a drawer and never pull it out, never use it for its intended propose  … batteries go stale … the bulb doesn’t work … its kind of sad.
It reminds me of people who place themselves and their passions in a drawer and never turn on their own lives. A person’s life is meant to be lit too.

What is the flame in your life? Is it lit? Is there light and heat? Or has the passion been allowed to go stale?
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ~Nelson Mandela

Look at passion as though it were a living, breathing thing. If you feed it, it will grow and thrive and expand, filling your life with joy and happiness. If you don’t, it will eventually do what all living things do when they don’t get fed.

How sad is it to meet a musician who no longer plays music or a singer who doesn’t sing, or a dancer who doesn’t dance. Unmet and undiscovered passions are flames that are never lit and happiness that is never realized.

When you decide to move from neutral and put the foot on the gas, it doesn’t have to be pushed to the floor, just enough to move you forward and get your blood pumping a bit.
Turn on that light of purposeful living. Don’t wait. Start filling your life with whatever meaning and passion it lacks.

Everyday you don’t, you delay doing what you were created to do.
If you don’t know what excites you, that’s fine. I’ve rewritten my DMP 5 times (definate major purpose)Experiment! Pick something up and give it a try (artistic, expressive, athletic, entrepreneurial, technical, mechanic, spiritual, moral, developmental, whatever). If it doesn’t float your boat, set it down and try something else. If that doesn’t, try again.

Choosing to fill your life with what makes your heart beat will transform it. You will be filled with more energy and love and excitement. You will be driven to do and create and discover. You will feel the warm blood of purpose course through your veins, adding meaning and value to your life. You will be happier, more fulfilled, more in love with the life you lead.

Does the prospect of a more passion-filled life excite you? Enough to do something about it?
Some ideas to find your passion

1 – Determine what your “Personal Pivotal Needs” (PPN’s) are.
These will help you to focus your life’s purpose and direction. If you decide that what drives you is liberty and autonomy. It doesn’t make sense to make your passion owning a restaurant that will make neither of those things possible. The PPN’s will help to point the ship to the right port.
2 – Discover what makes you tick
So, what floats your boat? If you know, great! But if you don’t, you may find yourself living in the shadow of relentless sameness, spinning wheels, going nowhere, unfulfilled, unexcited, frustrated, bored.
If that’s the case, start exploring possibilities. Try new things. Talk to new people about what they love. Read. Learn. Discover. Make a list of interests or even potential interests and see if something stands out. As you expose yourself to opportunities and look into what’s out there, dive head first into what moves you.
Perhaps it’s business or sales or working with your hands or movie production or foster care or graphic design or marketing or acting or politics or blogging or martial arts or the cause of happiness. Doesn’t matter … you finding your passion might change the world … and if doesn’t it will at least change YOUR world.
I struggled with this mightily … first giving myself persimmon to want more from life, then trying to figure out what it was. And truth be told … right now I have a clear vision what it is but in a few years that may change. The important thing is to start the journey … get out of neutral.
3. Make a date with what you love to do
Make time for doing what moves you. It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind of doing all the things that have to get done, living paycheck to paycheck, always running, always behind, never really enjoying life, never having time to pursue your passion.
So schedule it! Calendar in park days, play dates, concerts, field trips to the Art Gallery, and how-to workshops and seminars. Schedule time to practice the guitar or climb a mountain or paint. Even if it’s only a few minutes here and there. Life is lived in the moments, so fill them with passion and your life will be more passionate.
You don’t have to get paid for it. You just have to do it. Set aside time when phones are turned off and email is ignored and purpose is fulfilled. Then as circumstances allow, stretch the moments.
4. Get help
Sometimes we have seemingly insurmountable obstacles that get in the way of pursuing new ideas and exploring possibilities. We tell ourselves it won’t work or that we wouldn’t be able to make it work even if in theory it otherwise would. We tell ourselves we’re too busy or it’s too expensive or we’re too old or too sick or lazy or tired or inadequate.
We fear taking that essential step and so we leave our lives unexplored, undiscovered, uncreated. We believe the lies we tell ourselves and so we stay in the shadow of our own lives. We leave the wick unlit. The purpose unsought. Passion unknown.
But that’s not what we’re all about. That’s not what life was created for. That’s not the life you were meant to live. You were meant to live a life of purpose and on purpose.
Sometimes we just need a good kick in the butt. If that’s all you need to take a step toward the unmet passions of your life, that’s awesome! Go get to the work of building a life you’re deeply happy about living.
But if you need more–a push, some direction, help, a community, a mentor and coach, I highly recommend creating a master mind, get a life/business coach. Or talk to someone who you see went through this process. You don’t have to go it alone.

Much Love.


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