WEEK 17JH – The hero’s journey explained in a very serious way

If you enjoy reading as I do, and enjoy movies as I do you, will be interested in knowing that most of literature we read and movies we watch all have a central theme. Even accent stories all followed that same pattern… it’s what makes them so compelling.

Joseph Campbell wrote a very cool book called “A Hero with a Thousand Faces”. The book is about self-actualization and at its core and has a approach that applies to everyone.

It’s mostly about myths and mythology. But the lessons in this book can help us identify and navigate the paths we take to better ourselves and the changes in our lives. It can help us get better at navigating change, something most of us struggle with.

Campbell looked at what myths from different cultures had in common, rather than what they didn’t. Everywhere Campbell searched, he found a single story-telling pattern.

Campbell called this universal pattern the monomyth. You might know it as the Hero’s Journey.

The monomyth is in every story you’ve ever heard, most of the movies you’ve ever seen — and it’s present in your own life, every day. And understanding it can make you a better person.

The video above is a very serious and somber retelling of the Hero’s journey and how it is used in modern Movie making.

 

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Week 16 – Your off the island.

I have a confession to make … I thought I was immune to most outside influences. Didn’t really think I would ever allow other people to effective my positive nature, but recently a very close family member who I respect tremendously frustrated me with a whole bunch of negative talk about their future and current situation in life.  It really knocked be on my butt. While I have other people in my life that I have basically removed from my life because of some their negativity, this is someone who has been a motivator and a positive influence for me since I was kid.

Don’t worry … I’ve since recovered … but it got me thinking about the people in our lives and how  we react to their frame of minds.  Are they unduly influencing us?

While we’d all rather avoid it, negativity is a part of life.

Even though it’s unavoidable, it can knock us off course – even stunt your progress – if you don’t know how to handle it.

The first strategy for dealing with negative people, temporary or otherwise is to determine whether you are dealing with negativity from a positive person or negativity  from a negative person. That distinction will help us develop a filter to figure out the difference between the two.  You can handle the rare and occasional rants of Negative talk from a positive person. The constant onslaught of life sucking negitivlty from a negative person is toxic and you should run … run for your life!!!

So how do you know if you’re dealing with a actual negative person? Here are seven signs:

1. This is a broken record.You’ve seen it before … too often.  It’s not an isolated, out-of-character incident you’re looking at. The criticism or negative talk you’re dealing with is ‘the standard’ for them.

2. They fail the call display test. As silly as this sounds, I laughed whenI was thinking about this … but the call display test is a pretty good indicator of whether a person drains you or pumps you up. When you see someones name come up on your caller ID, you get an immediate visceral reaction to it. Sometimes you’re thrilled to see the name and can’t wait to take the call. Other times you’re neutral. But sometimes your heart drops and you get a knot in your stomach. Whether it’s a phone call, a text or an email, you respond negatively and quietly think “oh crap, I don’t not want to talk to that person… in fact I’d rather jam a spoon in my eye” That’s a sign that the person’s overall influence in your life has been negative, not positive.

3. They are mostly against things, but never for things. Negative people rarely know what they are passionate about; they only know what they “don’t like”. If the person you’re dealing with isn’t “for” anything positive, they likely have a negative outlook.

4. Compliments are usually followed by the word “but”. A positive person (and even a neutral person for that matter) can give a compliment. And feel good about it.  Negative people struggle with it. They are too insecure to give away any power. What starts out positively (“thats sounds like a great opportunity”) then a sheepish (“BUT … I don’t know … sounds like a pyramid scheme to me”)

5. Not doing much with their life. Okay, this one sounds a little harsh, but it’s true!!. Truly negative people rarely accomplish anything great. Because they are against everything, no one really wants to work with them. Stalled out careers, a history of changing jobs, always struggling with money … Hello!! I wonder why!!!. Most negative people do nothing significant with their lives.

6. They have no vision for the future. A negative person is almost never excited about the future. They have no compelling long term goals. They can just tell you why your vision is wrong.

I had to remind myself of these signs this week and make the decision weather to put this person on the outside. “your off the island, buddy”  It also reminded me that even when I think I have it all figured out, I can still have a bad week and need a pick me up too!.  Thanks to all of you who contribute to my positive mental health 🙂 Much Love!!

Week 15 – Law of cause and effect – (This is a deep one)

The Law of Cause and Effect states  “every material effect must have an adequate prior or simultaneous cause.”

So it stands to reason that the mass of a tricycle is not going to have enough gravitational pull to cause a tidal wave. There must be an adequate cause for the tidal wave, like a huge, offshore, underwater earthquake. Leaning against a mountain will not cause it to fall over. Jumping on a trampoline will not cause an earthquake. If no one builds a home on an empty lot the lot will remain homeless.

If matter was not made and placed in the Universe, we would not exist. There must be an adequate prior cause for every material effect. Perhaps the Law of Cause and Effect seems like common sense to most, but very often when we add God into the discussion common sense is thrown out and we begin to add emotion into the equation.

Everyone who studies science and is a student of logic knows that this is the foundation of all science.  If we refused to believe in The Law of Cause and Effect, or that everything that has a beginning has a cause, and that it always happens that way no matter what, all science as we know it would fall apart. It’s the basis and assumption for every conclusion and investigation man has made to this point.  We have to take it for granted before beginning any new hypothesis

So, the Law of Cause and Effect cannot be rationally denied … except if your trying to support some fantastic idea that requires you to suspend logic and blindly believe something without proof or reason.

The Bible,  supports this theory as well …  Hebrews 3:4 it says that “every house is constructed by someone, but He who built all things is God.”

A house must have a cause, or a builder. It can’t build itself. However, evolutionists and Atheists are left in a tough spot when trying to explain how the effect of the incredibly complex Universe could have come about without a cause.

According to them … The Universe, and everything that has happened in it since the beginning of time, are a grand effect without a known cause.

An effect without a known cause? That doesn’t sound like the world of science; it is a world of magic, of unexplained events, a medieval world filled with wizards and spells, of magicians pulling rabbits out of hats.

If atheism were true, there must then be a natural explanation of what caused the Universe. Scientists and philosophers recognize that there must be a cause that would be sufficient to bring about matter and the Universe—and yet no natural cause is known, and even more interestingly they have NEVER been able to recreate it..

The McGraw-Hill Dictionary says that “causality,” in physics, is “the principle that an event cannot precede its cause”

However, the atheist must concede that in order for this claim to be reasonable, the effect of the Universe not only preceded its cause, but actually came about without it!

Such a viewpoint is hardly in keeping with science. Scientifically speaking, according to the Law of Cause and Effect, there had to be a Cause for the Universe.

The only reference material I know of which gives us any explanation of the Cause is the Bible.  I don’t see how we can really truly believe we are nature greatest miracle and appreciate ourselves for how wonderfully we were made, unless we understand the intelligence that went into making us.  Its hard to think of ourselves as being “made first class, by first class, if we in fact had no “Cause”.

Week 14 – You are the greatest !!!

We spend so much time waiting to be loved by others, hoping that love will find us.  We feel empty and lost when we don’t have it.  Loving yourself is mainly about having self-respect, realizing that we are the greatest thing created on earth. It’s accepting that the only real way to create love in your own life is to share with others.  (Givers gain) When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fill that void, then we can sink even further into this emotional quick sand.

Stop the insanity!!

To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others. Understanding the effects of loving yourself will only enhance your ability to love others.

Actually its completely necessary to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Imagine your on a plane … The flight attendant comes out to do the song and dance before take off.  They tell you … “In the case of an emergency, if your traveling with children,  make sure you put your own oxygen mask on before helping them.  WHY? (seems so wrong to all the blues??)  It’s because they know if you don’t take care of yourself first, then you are in no position to help anyone else.

We are learning about this in our Master Keys but this was recognized 3000 years ago in the Bible .

Leviticus 19:18 “you must love your fellow man as yourself”

Matthew 22:39 “you must love your neighbour as yourself”

So .. let’s put this into perspective .. Let’s say I was self-deprecating, I beat myself up for every little flaw, second guessed all my decisions, neglected my physical and emotional needs, refused to accept compliments from people , refused to recognize my true greatness.

Now … I’m going to love YOU as much as I love myself …. what would you say???

“No thanks buddy … ”

So to follow through on this command from the Great Teacher … we HAVE to have self love.

So here are some practical suggestions to help you learn to Love yourself.

1 – Treat others with love and respect. “I greet this day with love in my heart” Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. Also, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually, you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. But don’t do it with any expectation … some won’t return the love … Who cares! You did your part … You have to give it away to get it.

2 –  Random acts of kindness.  You want to fall in love with yourself in a hurry?? Share something, anything … your time, your expertise, your abundance … anonymously if possible … ohmygosh … I love you more already 🙂

3- Write down your gratitudes  Put the love out there and you’ll get it back, remember you get what you give. When you do this exercise it’s sort of a mental inventory of our lives . “my life is pretty amazing after all … I have so much to be grateful for … I rock!!” 

4 – Let go of past events and negative feelings towards other people:  BEAR HUGS KETTLE!!. Cherish the great stuff, acknowledge the learning experiences and drop the pot of water man! You deserve it!  Forgive those who have done you wrong. Those kinds of thoughts are like poison. You know what the opposite of HATE is??? …. Wrong …  its not LOVE … its INDIFFERENCE.  You don’t have to be best friends with that person just stop blaming them for everything thats wrong in your world.

5 – Put positive statements up some place where you will see them each and every day. – See Stuart Smalley above 🙂  Or how about write out 60 index cards that list all the amazing accomplishments you have done in your life, and flip through them every chance you get.  What .. can’t think of 60??? I’ll give you a hint … confide in 3 people you know well about this exercise, and what you are trying to do … ask them to come up with at least 10.  I’ll bet they come up with 20!!  We are our own worse critic … and given the opportunity we will beat ourselves up whenever we can.  You are awesome, trust me … you just don’t know it yet 🙂

6 – Lock in on your Definite Major Purpose – Try to look past “material” things. We all want a nice house, nice stuff, someone to share our life with, etc. Find your true wants objectively. How do you want to FEEL? What is your true Bliss? We can always fool ourselves, but figuring out what you really WANT will help you know and love yourself better .

7 – Have persistence: Work hard at this .. it’s not going to change overnight … creating your new blueprint is undoing possibly decades of misguided thinking.  Work as steadily as you can at loving and accepting yourself just as you are right now.   The true meaning of loving someone is accepting them “as is”. Not trying to change them into something else.  Why would it be any different for yourself— learn to love yourself “as is”. Only then can we start to refine the little “wrinkles” in ourselves. This isn’t easy .. it’s “Wicked Hard” But its worth the effort.

 8 – Take care of yourself: Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. DO YOUR SIT. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself.  Take care of yourself physically by exercising and eat healthy food. Listen to a love song, do some painting, or helping others in need.  Take care of yourself mentally by reading your favorite books.

9 – Stop comparing yourself to others:  Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different strengths.  When you compare yourself to others, it can make you feel bad about yourself.  Someone is always going to do if different. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, money, or a job, it makes  lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous. Having more does not mean happiness!!!  If you are not enough NOW … the way you are … it will never be enough …. you will always be trying to keep up with the Jone’s … you won’t ever be enough to yourself.

Understand you are Made first class, by first class, and you deserve to go first class … if you do a first class job being content with who you are.

Focus on your own strengths. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world.  “I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, LOVING, harmonious and happy …  BELIVE IT!!

10 – Stop trying to be perfect: . Your already Perfect!  Always do your best …  not the best your can.   Your more than enough … Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.

“Cause I’m good enough, smart enough, and gosh darn it … people like me 🙂

Week 12 – How to put your socks on properly

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I’ve had the privilege of being a Football coach for 20 years now. I’ve coached Highschool , College ball, and even a short stint at the Pro level. Coaching has become part of who I am, and I’m proud of my accomplishments. Not so much the wins and Championships (although those are cool) but more importantly it’s the opportunity I’ve had to mould some minds and be a difference in the lives of some young people.

I’ve really enjoyed Mark’s occasional reference’s to John Wooden. If you are not familiar with Coach Wooden, he is considered to be one of the greatest College Basketball coaches of all time. And not because of the 10 National Championships he won at UCLA.
Coach Wooden would be the first to tell you that “he” didn’t win 10 national championships, the young men he “taught” are responsible for those banners.

He was sometimes criticized for using unconventional teaching methods. They may have been … but they were always very effective.

Here’s a perfect example: Imagine your a new freshman player at your first practice with UCLA, excited and eager to learn from the great Coach Wooden. Waiting in the locker room to be taught some secret of the game. Coach Wooden would start every camp the same way.

“Please take off your shoes and socks,” Coach announced to the team, “I’m going to show you the proper way to put them back on.”

The new players would look around … they thought he was joking or lost his mind. What the heck did this have to do with basketball?

“Now, when you pull on your sock,” he said showing them through example, “I want you to make sure that there are no wrinkles or gaps,” as he put his own socks on. “Make sure your heel is fully seated in the heel of the sock; run your hand over the toes and make sure to smooth out any bumpy areas.” Then he showed each player how to properly lace his shoes and tie them snugly so that there was no room for the shoe to rub or the sock to bunch up.

Then Coach Wooden would get up and leave for the gym, the players would still be perplexed, why were they starting out the season talking about shoes and socks? Here they were, the best young players around, and this legend had just spent 30 minutes teaching them about shoes and socks.

Then, Coach Wooden would turn around and say ‘That’s your first lesson. You see, if there are wrinkles in your socks or your shoes aren’t tied properly, you will develop blisters. With blisters, you’ll miss practice. If you miss practice, you don’t play. And if you don’t play, we cannot win.

“If you want to win Championships, you must take care of the smallest of details.”

He would then walk away.

Coach Wooden understood the importance of the little things in terms of preparing for something bigger. He was great because he focused on the small, basic tasks that are the building blocks of every major victory. Sound Familiar? (Doing your sit, reading your DMP, using the laws of the mind)

I’ve enjoyed reading and learning from Coach Wooden since my playing days. I read anything I can get my hands about him. And I’ve used his methods and thoughts many times with my players to varying degrees of sucsess. His secrets were rarely about anything earth shattering, or some strategic new secret offence, they where always focused on the tiny details of each day that most of us overlook. Because he takes the time to look after the basics, Coach Wooden was prepared to tackle the larger issues that came his way with calmness, thoughtfulness, and wisdom.

Games are not won on game day, they are won at the first practice, with the first actions. It’s how we set ourselves up for greatness or faluire. Greatness is not achieved in a moment – it is the result of hundreds of small acts of preparation along the way.

“Failing to Prepare is Preparing to Fail” – John Wooden

Week Eleven – Get’er Done!

Have you been putting something off?

You know how it goes.
One part of your brain says – “Stop procrastinating. Just get on with it. Finish it!”

But then another part screams- “But I don’t want to!”

It may not be anything major, but the task keeps nagging at the back of your mind. You feel unsettled, slightly annoyed and stressed.

Here’s the thing: you can’t be fully at peace until you complete the task. Why?
Because the tendency we have to worry about something we have started and haven’t yet finished.

In his book “Getting things Done” David Allen says that just by simply writing something down and making a list we free up valuable space in our Brain, like ram on a computer.

I think the service card exercise, in our MKMMA has been the most useful exercise of this experience for me. I have been studying procrastination and efficiently for years (mostly because I’ve struggled with both) and this has helped me tremendously.

Not finishing a project is like having a mental popcorn kernel stuck in your teeth. It is annoying, it won’t go away. It’s robs your brain of valuable energy until you get up get some floss and get it out.

But if you can just get it done, your brain will breathe a sigh of relief. You will feel lighter. Chances are you will have way more energy too.

As Jack Canfield says in his book “The Success Principles” –

“the quicker you move through [your] incompletes, the clearer your mind will be and the more “attention units” you’ll have to dedicate to those things that can really make a difference in your life”.

At the very least, you’ll feel some relief as you go to cross the task off your ‘To do’ list.

So how do we motivate ourselves to complete tasks and projects you keep putting off-

1- Consider how life will be better

Whatever the task is – no matter how painful and boring – consider all the good things that will come once it’s finished.

maybe it’s as simple as feeling more energized because your one step closer towards achieving a long term goal.
Or you no longer feel bogged down by it. You can reclaim a little more peace of mind and energy for other stuff.

2- Kato yourself into action

A little fear can be a good source of motivation. “Hiyaaa!!!”

So ask yourself the question –
What happens if I keep putting this off? — Hiyaaa!!!

Now, don’t freak out. Freaking out never helps. Too much fear can lead to paralysis.

But you may have to get your heads out of the sand, and stop ignoring this task … It’s not going away.

Don’t start something to don’t plan on finishing. And I got news for you. If you’ve started it in your mind (where all creation of ideas and task start) and you know it has to get done, you have to finish or it will nag you forever.

Hiyaaa!!! …

Besides, how much fun is it to not finish, focus on the euphoric feeling of checking another task of the to do list.

To do this requires self discipline, focus and strength. You need to be ruthless with yourself – finish the task and you’ll be training your stubby that you always keep your promises.

2- Get your dopamine firing

To help you finish a particularly boring task, you need to get your dopamine firing. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter associated with the expectation of pleasurable experiences.

Now typically when your brain thinks of doing a boring project, dopamine isn’t released. The gates to your dopamine are firmly closed.

So how can you open up your dopamine floodgates?

By simply combining the task with some upbeat music that you really enjoy, hanging out with people you like, or being in a spot that makes you happy.

3 – Start before you feel ready

Don’t worry about the how, worry about the what.

The reality is you are never going to feel ready or motivated to start doing some tasks. You just need to start. One step at a time. Success will come if we don’t give up.

Week Ten – Whats an eleven letter word for “making your bliss a reality” … Persistence

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I persist until I succeed … or do I ??

The December scroll has been the most eye opening one yet.

I have found it so motivating and at the same time a window into why I have enjoyed some failures and some success in the past.

If I think about some home runs I’ve had, it has, without a doubt been attributed to my relentless persistence.  I was not going to let ANYTHING get in the way of my goal.  I would become so single minded in my pursuit of that goal.  And the flip is the same.  I have had some “intentions” in the past … had the knowledge do complete the goal … but didn’t apply the knowledge and was not persistent enough to get it completed.

That seems to have been a theme for me … huge successes due to relentless persistence. (usually at the expense of family or other areas in my life). Or Failure because I was simply not “moved” enough to make it something I wanted to be passionate about.

Balance is always the key … but how do you have relentless persistent pursuit of your goals and not get out of Balance?  I don’t think you can.  I feel the key is to constantly make adjustments.  Like a tight-rope walker with a balance poll. In a 50 foot walk across a tight rope he probably makes several thousand “micro” adjustments in his balance.  The audience can’t hardly even notice, he appears to just glide across the rope with ease, but in reality he is making constant tiny adjustments.

Thats the key, a business that doesn’t take inventory will always fail, and the same is for the biggest, most important company you have “MYSELF INC.”

Make the adjustments, stay balanced, keep persisting until you succeed … and don’t look down!

WEEK NINE – Left Brian / right brian

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What side of the brian do I use?  I’ve always thought of myself as a Left Brain person.  I pride myself on being a level headed, logic based, person.  I’ve always struggled communicating with people who are driven by emotion.  I’m naturally very impatient, and can even be downright cranky with people who don’t get to the point. I was pretty sure I’m a lost cause.  Well … This Master Keys process has taught me so much… turns out the more I dig into the science … I’m more balanced than I thought.

I can’t believe how emotional I feel when I do my readings! And now hearing my own voice is sending me over the edge.  This is not going to be easy to say … But the other day I actually got a little misty, thinking about my PPN, and how great it is going to feel bringing them to life.

Oh man …  I’m turning into a BLUE!!! Help!!!

 

 

WEEK EIGHT – ELE – Everybody Love Everybody

Everybody love Everybody … Is that even possible??  What if your dislike  its so deep, so firmly intrenched that you’ve been hanging on to it for years.

In some far-off monastery, perhaps a lone monk enjoys a life of peace, without a single hateful thought ever crossing his mind. For most of the rest of us, thinking some hateful or negative thoughts has, well, happened to all of us.

So how can we tame our thoughts and improve our well-being? Research shows that repression doesn’t work. In fact, the harder you try not to think about something, the more likely it is to pop back into your thoughts. This rebound effect is particularly common with emotional concepts, such as hate or love.

The key then is not to try and NOT think about Hate or negative thoughts, but instead, replace them with something positive.

I’ve become an amateur  gardner of sorts … I’ve learned one undeniable truth.  If you plant flowers in your garden … you get Flowers.  If you plant weeds in your garden … you get weeds.  If you plant nothing in your garden … you still get weeds.

So in the absence of productive gardening , or thinking … you get negative thinking.  Its not enough to remove the weeds … you have to plant something productive in its place.

It’s why I’ve never really understood the philosophy of meditating by “emptying your mind”??  I believe whole heartedly that we should meditate, but it needs to be focused on something positive.  Or unfortunately as much as we try, the pressures of the day, the weeds, will creep back in.

Have you ever seen a cow chew his cud? I know it’s kinda gross.  It chews it’s food a little and then several hours later he regurgitates it up and chews on it some more.  A cow can’t regurgitate on an empty stomach, and we can meditate on an empty mind.  It has to be on something positive, uplifting, that we have previously taken in.

The 7 day mental diet has been a challenge, as I’m sure it has for all of us.  But its worth the effort and even though it might seem mechanical at first, the mental exercise is worth the work!!

Much Love!

WEEK 7 – … I love you man

So … my Greastest Salesman read everyday … firs t thing in the morning I usually am on kid duty making breakfast getting ready for school … So I’ve started doing my read with them. I figured how could reading about love in my heart hurt a 5 and 7 yr old.

So.. Been doing this for the last 2 weeks almost every morning.  Reading scroll 2 out loud with “enthusiasm”.  and yesterday a strange thing happened.  The 5 year old started chiming in every-time I said “I greet this day with love in my heart”  I was so cool.  Not only did he say it with me but emulated the enthusiasm along with it!

Never had a prouder moment then watching a 5 year old with PB and J smeared across his face raise his hands above his head and say with conviction ” I greet this day with love in my heart!!!”

Then it became so clear.  All the habits and wiring that happened to us as kids, all the years of conditioning that we are trying to undo with this course, all the negative “red pen syndrome” that helped to generate the need to create a new blueprint … all of that can be avoided.  I can help to develop these young minds, with the proper blueprint already in place.  I can help create a new generation of kid… A “super Hero” of sorts who has unlimited potential, who is surrounded by positivity all the time. Who has clearly defined goals and a vision of what he really wants. A future that isn’t dominated by the clock … instead by there bliss.

Now if only they could use this new power for good instead of evil … and pick the lego up off the floor.